A Letter to Josephine Dog

A letter to Josephine, from Kirsty:

Dear Josephine,

I think that you and I both know, despite how much I love you, that you are a lot more special to your other mummy than me. It’s lovely really; she loves every single thing about you, the shape of your nose, the soft clippy noise of your paws, that growling thing you sometimes do when you are deeply asleep. She loves laying down with you tucked up in her arms and stroking your silky fur and kissing your face. You are hers and she loves you completely.

I’m not as in love with you, not like she is, but I do love you too, though you may not feel it very keenly these days. It’s hard, isn’t it? When I get irritable, it seems to all be directed at you and I’m sorry because frankly, you don’t deserve it. You are such a very good dog. In fact, you are possibly the easiest dog in the world and some days I still struggle! Some days, when it’s pouring down outside and the world is that dark, uninviting grey, I’m silently cursing you for needing the walk that means getting everyone in to rain coats and shoes and under rain covers or umbrellas. Sometimes I crossly shoo you away when it’s nap time and I can finally enjoy my lunch without two little helpers and you are staring at me with imploring eyes. Often, I lose my temper when I’m trying to get through the house in a rush and you are innocently placed in front of me every which way I turn. It’s hard sometimes. I split all of myself between the boys and what little I have left for you is often snappy annoyance. Your life has changed so much, from having me as YOUR stay at home mama for those final weeks of the pregnancy to having two small, fierce wildlings who grab your fur and pat your back just that bit too hard. This hasn’t been easy for you.

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I’m sorry. This year, it is one of my resolutions to take a minute here and there to pet your head, give you a treat and remind you that you are a good dog and, though you are very often at the bottom of a long list (perks of having an easy dog – you will wait beautifully for your walk when I have that early doctor’s appointment), you are important too. Thank you for being so laid back, so easy going, so obedient. I couldn’t have a dog right now if it wasn’t you.

Love,
Your other mama

Do other stay-at-home mamas struggle to juggle the different needs of pets and babies?  We’d love to hear your tips, tricks and advice.

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6 Comments

  1. Alexandra | I'm Every Mum
    January 10, 2016 / 6:40 pm

    Aww Kirsty this is precious. So cute you’re so aware of it all, and it is so totally normal. We don’t have a pet, but I hear my husband snap at the children sometimes because life is stressful and usually I’ve annoyed him. I get sad he feels he can’t (doesn’t) snap at me and then it comes out on the babies sometimes (because they’re always underfoot when we try and get anywhere). It’s great that Josephine’s there really, being exactly what you need from her at the moment. Bless her that she’s so good and patient. My sisters dog is the best friend of our two youngest, they’re obsessed, totally smitten with him and they talk about him all the time when they’re at home. It must be wonderful for the boys to have Josephine there all the time. Sounds to me like you have a perfect balance xxx

  2. Clare @ Maybush Studio
    January 10, 2016 / 8:44 pm

    Do I struggle? Is the pope Catholic? And I’ve got two of the blessed things (dogs, not babies… It’s you with the two babies!)

  3. Donna
    January 10, 2016 / 9:32 pm

    Our cats used to drive me insane Always meowing at us, constantly wanting something and always just there. Then our boy cat died suddenly in June and since then the house has been so quiet, his cuddles are missing and his little sister can’t quite feel that void. I try and appreciate her more now though, I give her more cuddles, don’t get annoyed with her as much and make sure I make time for her. Even though, it’s still hard to juggle everything x

  4. Colette B
    January 11, 2016 / 9:39 pm

    I could have written this letter myself. I have a 6yr old boxer, he’s just weeks younger than my son. They have grown up together and neither knows a life without the other. I do love Thomas but I’m also allergic to him so that makes it difficult for me to make a fuss of him, I have to wash my hands immediately after or I come out in hives. He’s such a beautiful, patient pup and I really don’t give him enough of my time.

  5. Tanita
    January 12, 2016 / 9:48 pm

    Such a lovely post from Kirsty. We don’t have a family dog only our cat Buttons, but we would love to have a family dog, although I can imagine it would be difficult to juggle it all. Which is why I am hesitant because as much as a dog would be an asset to our family and so loved I also know that sometimes it can be a challenge. Such a lovely honest post and Josephine really is such a special dog, no denying you both love her so very much. x

  6. Natalie Ray
    January 16, 2016 / 5:42 pm

    Kirsty it’s totally not just you. I wrote a very similar letter to our puppy when things got so terribly difficult here after my husband’s accident. I am still feeling guilty now because things aren’t back to normal. But I think what we both have to cling to is that we’ve done the best for our dogs by keeping them with us, where they belong. So many people abandon their animals when things get tough at home. It seems insane to me, they are as much a part of the family as anyone else, after all the dogs came before the children. So I know that you and I will both go on doing our very best for the dogs – and everyone else – and we’ll go on feeling guilty. But deep down we have to remember that so many people choose that awful alternative whereas we make things work with the dogs as part of our families however difficult things get.xx

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