A Twinkle Twinkle Little Star Gender Reveal

Finding out that we were expecting two new tiny additions to our family has been such a joy, I didn’t expect it to matter what ‘flavour’ they came in.  After all, half of the time our sons are mistaken for daughters and one of them is currently obsessed with his cat-shaped hair clips, which he brings to us in order to have his fringe clipped back and to have us sing that ‘Zaza has a cat in his hair’.  It turns out that there is not much difference between raising a little boy and a little girl.

I’ve never raised a little girl but I expect that it’s much the same the other way round.  When I remember my sister as a child I think of her dangling one-handed from trees like a money, taking prizes in Sports Day despite being the smallest, raising an ant farm.  All things considered, the sex organs don’t mean much when they’re young.  And there’s no guarantee that what you get at birth is even what you’ll still have when they turn eighteen anyway.

Yet somehow it mattered.  Somehow I cared what I was carrying this time round.

After the twins were born, the first twins, I had a vision of our family.  I saw us with a little girl born next, little Hermione, and then a curly-haired final son stomping after us in yellow wellies.  I’m not sure why.  Does everybody imagine future families for themselves?

Then during the IVF I could imagine a third boy, the curly-haired son come a little early.  Peregrine.  In my mind he was a little like a smaller version of Lysander, in looks at least.  His personality was all his own.

I have loved raising boys, the sixteen months of it that I have experienced so far.  My tiny chaps are dynamic and funny, full of character.  They are engaging and endearing and even as small as they are, they love fiercely.  Another boy would be a treasure.

But after the IVF was all over, clutching a remarkably clear image of our hatching blastocysts, all that I could picture were girls.  The blastosisters.  A pair of boys followed by a pair of girls, perfectly symmetrical.  It seemed almost too lovely to be possible but nonetheless, I fell hard for the idea.  From that moment on, and certainly once two tiny heartbeats were seen flickering on the ultrasound screen, the babies in my daydreams have been girls.

This time around, Kirsty and I had a deal.  If it were one baby we wouldn’t find out the sex at all.  If it were two babies, or more than two babies, we would find out the sex.  My preference had been to have a surprise this time round because I thought that it might be easier, if there was a risk of disappointment, to get over that disappointment with two gorgeous armfuls of newborn.  Kirsty felt the opposite: she would rather adjust to a different reality before the birth, so that the moment of meeting the babies would not be marred by any element of loss.  I could see her point.  Meeting the twins was such a ghastly experience last time round, for me at least, because the birth had been so traumatic; this time, I’m deeply invested in it being if not perfect then pretty darn close.

So as soon as the second baby flashed up on our very first ultrasound it was decided that we would be finding out.  As a matter of fact, the clever babies actually gave us a little clue in the twelve-week ultrasound with extremely clear nub shots – clearly, they wanted us to be able to plan names in advance!

We had a private ultrasound two weeks ago at 16+4 weeks.  Kirsty and the twins came with us and it was actually a the first time that she had seen the babies on screen as previously we had opted not to take our rambunctious toddlers in to the NHS environment.  It was wonderful to share our new additions with our little family and Sasha especially seemed riveted as the microhumans on the screen danced about.  Having seen the nubs on the 12-week scan we thought we had a good idea as to what these babies were and I could tell that Kirsty too was scrutinising their little faces, trying to work out whether their looks aligned with the sex that we had in mind for them – although we both know, of course, that it doesn’t work like that!  16-week gestation babies look a little bit like adorable tiny aliens, even mine.

And yes, we found out for certain what we are having.  We couldn’t be more pleased to share our news in typically elaborate ‘Goblin Child’ style with a little photoshoot and a video, that we are having two little….

 

Did you guess right?  We are delighted and so excited; brimming with love for these tiny people already.

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38 Comments

  1. Alison
    February 23, 2016 / 12:37 pm

    Oh you lot! This made me do a small cry. Such lovely news xxx

  2. Colette
    February 23, 2016 / 12:48 pm

    Argh I’m SO excited for you! I was hoping for that perfectly symmetrical pair of each I must admit. How flipping wonderful! 😀

  3. LUCY BISHOP
    February 23, 2016 / 12:53 pm

    AMAZING NEWS! Yay! It’s all about #teampink this year it seems! 🙂 xxx lovely video, lovely family!

  4. Andrea Louise
    February 23, 2016 / 12:59 pm

    Aww what a lovely video! Congratulations! X

  5. ClearlyBex
    February 23, 2016 / 1:09 pm

    Such a gorgeous video and many congratulations to you all! x

  6. Debbie
    February 23, 2016 / 1:14 pm

    Congratulations! A beautiful film and wonderful news. x

  7. Lucy (Hello Beautiful Bear)
    February 23, 2016 / 1:18 pm

    Argfhhhhh I’ve just put my makeup on and you’ve got me on floods of tears!

    Bless you that’s so wonderful, so so happy for you both!

    Gorgeous video, absolutely beautiful

    X X

  8. Farmerswifeandmummy
    February 23, 2016 / 1:22 pm

    Aww that is lovely news and a beautiful video. Congratulations my lovelies xx

  9. Donna
    February 23, 2016 / 1:25 pm

    Huge congrats lovely! x

  10. Charlotte - Write Like No One's Watching
    February 23, 2016 / 1:35 pm

    Cried. Big ploppy tears at my desk! So pleased for you. Would have been either way – but it’s always nice to know anyway. Congratulations, all SEVEN of you (am counting Josephine, obvs). xx

  11. You Baby Me Mummy
    February 23, 2016 / 1:42 pm

    Wow how exciting! I am so pleased for you all! xxx

  12. Notmyyearoff
    February 23, 2016 / 1:48 pm

    Ohhh congratulations!!! To all of you!!! I think when you said blastosisters it convinced me 🙂 you family is going to be so full of love. Xx

  13. Lindsay At Newcastle Family Life
    February 23, 2016 / 1:49 pm

    What a lovely video ! This is such a lovely announcement. Two girls is perfect and will be so lovely. Congratulations to you all xx

  14. Claire
    February 23, 2016 / 2:16 pm

    Congratulations!!!

  15. Sparklewood
    February 23, 2016 / 2:17 pm

    Congratulations, they are very lucky to be entering such a lovely family x

  16. Jodie
    February 23, 2016 / 2:28 pm

    Yay!!!!!! Girl club:) I am so thrilled for you

  17. Jenny
    February 23, 2016 / 3:04 pm

    Congratulations! Amazing news for you all! 🙂 x

  18. Deborah
    February 23, 2016 / 3:19 pm

    One VERY happy Grandmother (Grandy).
    Two little Lords and two little Ladies
    Xxx

  19. Beth
    February 23, 2016 / 3:36 pm

    Very exciting! Very cute video too.

  20. Adventures of Adam
    February 23, 2016 / 4:01 pm

    I literally squealed when I saw you had made a video. I have been waiting with excitement. So over the moon!!!!

  21. Natalie @ Little Jam Pot Life Blog
    February 23, 2016 / 4:17 pm

    AHHH! I knew it! how precious, obviously it would have been a precious time either way but wow, two of each, what a blessing! And check out Josephine! such a wonderful gender reveal, loved it! We’ve had surprises each time, gladly so but what a wonderful thing to know the gender of each 🙂 x

  22. bex @ the mummy adventure
    February 23, 2016 / 4:34 pm

    yay, mother’s instinct is rarely wrong, I can’t wait for baby girls!!

  23. Karrie Bradshaw
    February 23, 2016 / 6:25 pm

    This is FANTASTIC news!!! you made me cry too!! xxx

  24. Mrs TeePot
    February 23, 2016 / 6:32 pm

    Aww congratulations! What a beautiful way to announce it too! 🙂

  25. Katie
    February 23, 2016 / 7:17 pm

    What a beautiful video! Two of each? How bloody lovely xxx

  26. LauraCYMFT
    February 23, 2016 / 8:00 pm

    So exciting! I was almost right with my guess! So amazing to have one set of each!

  27. Hayley @hayleyfromhome
    February 23, 2016 / 8:59 pm

    Such lovely news, I am so excited for you. Not only another set of beautiful twins but girls too! xx

  28. Caro | The Twinkle Diaries
    February 23, 2016 / 9:08 pm

    So, so delighted for you both ????

  29. Jenni - Odd Socks and Lollipops
    February 23, 2016 / 10:57 pm

    Awww congratulations! How lovely – and what a gorgeous video too!

  30. Sarah Christie
    February 24, 2016 / 1:49 pm

    Ah that was beautiful, and such wonderful news congratulations to you all x

  31. Sarah
    February 24, 2016 / 2:56 pm

    Congratulations! This is so exciting!! I love the video too – it’s too cute x

  32. Wave to Mummy
    February 24, 2016 / 6:38 pm

    Congratulations – how brilliant, a perfect symmetry 🙂

  33. Vickie
    February 24, 2016 / 8:51 pm

    Oh wow wow wow! Congratulations! Such a lovely video and I just about cried when the second balloon popped pink too. 😀

  34. Jo Laybourn
    February 26, 2016 / 6:06 pm

    Awesome news! Congratulations!

  35. Confessions of a New Mummy
    March 1, 2016 / 9:16 pm

    Oh! This got me all weepy. Congratulations to all of you x

  36. Hannah Atkinson
    March 21, 2016 / 7:33 pm

    Oh Amber, I just saw this! Congratulations to you all. I’m so glad that you have your little girls. Perfect, perfect. Two boys, two girls, close in age. I’m insanely jealous but happy for you more x

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