Gender Stereotyping and “Too Beautiful to be a Boy”

“Are they twins?!”  I could count on one hand the number of days since the boys were born that we HAVEN’T been asked this question.  It’s inevitably followed up with “Are they a boy and a girl?”

At first I thought that they were projecting their own ideal onto my children, but when we started to ask them which twin they thought was the girl, everybody had the same answer.

And many of them justified their answer as thus:

“He’s too beautiful to be a boy.”

We are always very nonchalent in answering their question that no, they’re two lovely little boys, and yet people trip over themselves to apologise for their grevious crime of assuming that my son has a vagina.  It’s okay, people, I promise that his penis won’t fall off if you refer to him as she.  We’re not upset.

Anyway, apparently one of my sons is too beautiful to be a boy and the length of his eyelashes will personally offend all girls, everywhere.

If anybody’s looking for me, I’ll just be in the back room, trimming my son’s eyelashes.  Or, you know, not.

And that is when I start to feel annoyed because how can you be too beautiful to be a boy?

I happen to think that both of my children are gorgeous but it’s true that Balthazar has particularly dainty little features that might be seen as desirable for a girl.  He has big round eyes framed by long dark lashes and a pointy wee chin that makes him look like a little pixie.  He IS beautiful.

But is he too beautiful to be a boy?  No.

How can you be too beautiful to be your own sex?

He’s perfect.  Just like all beautiful boys are perfect.  Like like all little boys – and little girls – are beautiful.

It’s okay if you mistake him for a girl.  Just don’t tell him that he has to be one.  Let’s stop gender stereotyping our children.

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6 Comments

  1. June 13, 2015 / 7:30 pm

    The phrase ‘too beautiful to be boy’ is one of the most ridiculous things I’ve ever heard! He is seriously beautiful though, as is your other little laddy xx

  2. June 13, 2015 / 10:38 pm

    Both your boys are beautiful and I can see why some may mistake him for a girl – especially if he’s wearing bold and beautiful gender neutral clothing BUT he isn’t too beautiful to be a boy, what a daft thing to say! He is just beautiful, a beautiful boy x

  3. June 13, 2015 / 10:48 pm

    when my Pip was born the midwife said she thought he was a girl before we had a look because he was beautiful! He appears to be surviving!! I think babies are just babies; unless you’re changing their nappies it doesn’t matter which variety they are!

  4. June 14, 2015 / 6:59 pm

    He’s a beautiful boy. In fact he is one of the most beautiful babies I have ever seen. Both your boys are. x

  5. June 16, 2015 / 10:52 pm

    He is just too beautiful! People used to ask about Dylan, until he was about 3 actually, around here they couldn’t understand how he could possibly be a boy when his scalp wasn’t on show. Balthazar is just too gorgeous full stop! (As is lysander). People don’t seem to know what to say with Finn, the lack of baby blue or pink is putting them off making a decision, so we get a lot more ‘it’.

  6. Carrie
    June 17, 2015 / 10:18 am

    100% agree with Abigail ^^^ and Katie ^^^.

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