My friend Kate from Pouting in Heels recently wrote her Non-Negotiables for Happiness. The premise is that it’s a list of stuff that you are not prepared to negotiate or compromise on, things that might be little but are important to your welfare or happiness. One of Kate’s is flowers – buying flowers to fill vases around her house. Whilst I hate, hate, hate murdered flowers (really I do, don’t buy me sad, decapitated flowers please, people, they don’t make me happy and I end up just giving them to my mum to keep instead!) I love this idea, and so today I’m developing a list of my own.
You know what? I flipping love hot drinks. Mulled wine at Christmas, frothy cappuccinos with chocolate on top, hot chocolate with vanilla. A good chai latte. Hot drinks make me happy. When I remember, I like to take a mug of something warm out on the morning dog walk, and a hot chocolate is the absolute best way to start a busy day in the office. I should probably make them more and buy them less but actually, they are surprisingly important to me.
You may have noticed from my blog that I’m slightly attached to my camera. A good DSLR (Nikon D700), a good portrait lens (50mm f1.4) and a good editing program (Adobe Photoshop) have always been non-negotiable for me. On my wish list is a wide-angle lens like the Sigma or Nikon 24mm f1.4 and perhaps a zoom lens for chasing active toddlers, as well as underwater housing for the camera (imagine!) but as these are easily several thousand pounds’ worth of equipment I don’t think that they will be coming home with me any time soon! In the meantime, it is important to me to be able to style the occasional photoshoot with the kids and to spontaneously pick up the camera to document their lives.
So this is a little vague but it’s important to me: beautiful things. Attractive clothes for us and the children, fun, quirky little touches that remind us that we are ourselves. For example: Kirsty ripped all of the buttons off of my favourite coat and replaced them with painted wooden elephants! It makes me smile whenever I think about it; it was such a sweet and thoughtful thing to do. At the moment our house is rather small and cramped – hence you never see it – but we’re hoping to move soon and I can hardly wait to have a little more room in which to make our living situation beautiful. It makes such a difference.
Some Kind of Fur
I’m an animal person. I just am. In an ideal world I’d have a pony in the back garden but until then, I’ll settle for a dog reclining on my sofa. Josephine-dog is more human than dog, really, but she has brought so much joy to my life with her simple enthusiasm and genuine embrace-the-world happiness. I can’t imagine a home without a pet in it.
We’re a much stronger unit when we’re all together, little dog included. I absolutely need uninterrupted ‘us’ time and quite a bit of it. Apologies to friends/family we rarely see!
So those are my non-negotiables! I’d love to hear yours.