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  • On Not Carrying the Babies

    A Guest Post by my Partner, Kirsty: Deciding between us who would become pregnant was easy; by the time that we were ready to proceed, she knew how I felt and I knew how she felt. It came down to a simple reality: Amber wanted to be pregnant. I did not.   I know that a lot of women don’t enjoy pregnancy. I’m always quite open about the fact that the idea of being pregnant terrifies me, despite how much I desperately want children, and people tend to react to me as they would to a child who they are convinced won’t hate asparagus if he only just tries it. I have been told dismissively, numerous times by various people, that “it won’t be as bad as I think it is”. Perhaps they are right. Perhaps it wouldn’t be as bad as I expected; perhaps I would find it joyful…

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    On the subject of identity

    Recently I’ve been musing on the topic of identity.  Friends with children have made dire threats about how, when the boys are born, I will suddenly cease to register as an individual in the eyes of society but will instead be ‘Mum’. So long as we prefix ‘pony club’ before that, I’m down with that title.  I want to be a pony club mum. In all seriousness, I’ve rather enjoyed the way that people don’t see me any more, they just see an enormously pregnant lady who needs a seat on the train.  I quite like talking about the pregnancy, about my hopes and dreams for the twins.  I’m not too fussed that friends have stopped asking me what I’m reading and instead wonder whether I’ve decorated the nursery yet.  Perhaps it’s because I’ve had a few years of feeling very confident in my sense of self.  I know who…

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    Knitting Project: A Hiding Place

      A Guest Post from my Partner, Kirsty: When I came across Vibe Ulrik Sondergaard’s work online, I fell in love. I bought two of her beautiful books – Lullaby Knits and, despite having two boys on the way, I couldn’t resist buying Labour of Love, too. Both books are packed with gorgeous photographs, and Vibe speaks so passionately about her work that you can’t help feeling inspired. I was so excited to get started on some of the projects in Lullaby Knits and I couldn’t decide on a starting point, so Amber picked out one of her favourite patterns for me to work on. Pattern: The Pattern isn’t on Ravelry, but it is the Little Tree Sweater from Lullaby Knits. Yarn: Cascade 220 (go and have a look at that huge range of beautiful colours!) Needles: 5.5mm I really love this design. The pattern itself is straightforward and easy…

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    Knitting Project: Tealdrop Hat & Cardigan

    A Guest Post by my Partner, Kirsty I’ve really been enjoying working with Cascade 220 yarn lately. When I visited Loop last month, I picked up the gorgeous Knitting Gifts for Baby by Mel Clark and couldn’t wait to get started with it. I chose a pattern to match the gauge I was getting with the above Cascade 220 yarn, and here is what I made: Pattern: Shaggy Cardigan by Mel Clark Yarn: Cascade 220 Heathers Pacific Needles: 4.5mm & 5mm I opted to leave the tassels off of my cardigan because I loved the way it looked without. This is such a sweet pattern; I love the neckline and the roomy sleeves. I ended up knitting mine a little shorter than the pattern called for because I felt I didn’t need it to be as long. Knitting Gifts for Baby is full of gorgeous patterns, including but not limited…

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    “But what are you going to do about the DOG?”

    “But what are you going to do about the DOG?” With the exception of a few dog-savvy friends, this seemed the inevitable response from people when we announced that we were expecting.  As though the dog had been our child substitute and now that we had the real thing on the way, there would no longer be a place for her in our family.  As though she might pose some threat to the babies and would have to be evicted for their safety.  It made me cringe. At first, I was flippant: “Well, if she doesn’t get along with the babies then I’m sure that healthy newborn twins will rehome much more easily than a middle-aged mongrel.”  But when I simmered down and realised that their question was coming from a place of concern, I started to take the time to explain how we planned to help Josephine-dog find her…

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