Siblings Project in August 2016

They came into the world at the end of July. It was beautiful and unexpected, and the boys met them almost as soon as they were born and thought that they were marvellous. In the months leading up to their birth people would ask us whether the boys knew that they were going to be big brothers and whether they were excited for the babies and I had to confess that I didn’t know, that they were aware of babies in an abstract way – of their babies, plastic-skulled things, of a friend’s baby (they seemed to like him) – but were they prepared for babies in their home? No. I did not think that they were expecting that. I wondered how they would respond, whether they would be jealous, whether they would be pleased.

We wanted it to be easy. We wanted them to love their sisters, or at least not to resent their presence. We wanted it to be an experience that we shared with them, that even if they didn’t remember in the future, they were there for at the time.

The girls were in my arms when the boys were brought in to see them, dressed in the t-shirts that I had chosen for the occasion and clutching Custard Creams (we wanted them to associate their sisters with special things) and they declared them ‘Babies!’ in their sweet, high-pitched little voices. They came close and stared at them with wide eyes, and Balthazar offered a ‘Hi!’ in the most conversational tone, as though he was expecting them to reply.

In the days that have followed, they have accepted them. They are excited to see their little sisters when they wake up in the morning and they like to rock them to sleep in the moses basket in our living room, both together, declaring ‘rock, rock, rock!’ and swinging the thing progressively more enthusiastically until we are forced to intervene. They offer kisses – Lysander likes to kiss their feet – and point out their various facial features and body parts and Balthazar is fond of stroking their small heads with his best gentle hands.

So now I have four children.  Two small boys and two tiny girls, and I think that they will love each other very much.

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This is my monthly update for The Siblings Project, which I co-host with Lucy from Dear Beautiful, Katie from Mummy Daddy Me, Keri-Anne from Gingerlilly Tea and Carie from Space for the Butterflies.  We’d love to have you link up below with your own monthly sibling update and also do check out the new instagram page.

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13 Comments

  1. Lucy
    August 15, 2016 / 8:12 am

    Oh I knew you’d have something special to share this month and you haven’t disappointed. Such beautiful photos of your four!
    And I have to say that there is a lot to be said for small age gaps in regard to acceptance. Dylan was 19months when Everly came along and he didn’t even know what jealousy was at that age, so he just immediately got on with it like she’d always been there. It sounds like your boys have taken their promotion to big brothers in their stride, and I’m sure the girlies will absolutely adore them! x

  2. Katie @mummydaddyme
    August 15, 2016 / 2:37 pm

    Beautiful Amber! I was so excited to see your photos this month. It just looks like one big, huge, chaotic, bubble full of love! Congratulations to you all again for the millionth time. What a wonderful family you have. xx

  3. Janine Dolan
    August 15, 2016 / 4:25 pm

    Amazing bond they have with the little girls.
    You’d definitely be occupied for a while now 🙂

  4. Mummy on a Budget
    August 15, 2016 / 8:12 pm

    Really beautiful photos of your four! You can already tell how taken the boys are with their sisters. #siblingsproject

  5. Katy (What Katy Said)
    August 15, 2016 / 8:29 pm

    Oh I adore this so much Amber. How sweet the boys are, I’d expect nothing less of course. The girls are absolutely beautiful x #TheSiblingsProject

  6. Keri-Anne Pink
    August 15, 2016 / 10:40 pm

    I couldn’t love these pictures more. They are just beautiful. I am so happy for you xx

  7. Carie @ Space for the Butterflies
    August 16, 2016 / 5:55 am

    Oh what lovely pictures of your gorgeous big family – the boys look like they’re figuring out big brotherhood perfectly if occasionally enthusiastically and the girls are so lucky to have them 🙂

  8. Kara
    August 16, 2016 / 11:25 am

    These pictures are so beautiful Amber. I think you and Kirsty are the perfect Mothers for these 4 beautiful babies.
    It is funny how grown up the boys now look next to their sisters when last month they still looked so young xxx

  9. Emma Plus Three
    August 16, 2016 / 7:58 pm

    Such gorgeous photos. Congratulations on the birth of your girls, it looks like the boys love their sisters already x #siblingsproject

  10. Natalie - little jam pot life
    August 17, 2016 / 9:19 am

    Oh Amber I have loved watching. Your journey. These photos are so precious as are the words which you describe them. How magical to have the four of them xx

  11. kerry norris
    August 17, 2016 / 1:24 pm

    Firstly congratulations on your new additions. They are gorgeous. Your family is just perfect. I love their outfits. They all looks so colourful. It’s hard not to smile looking at them x #siblingsproject

  12. Helen | Wonderfully Average
    August 19, 2016 / 10:14 pm

    Oh I love this post! Your description of the boys is so like my big boy meeting his baby brother this month, he says, ‘hello, baby’ and ‘alright, baby?’ as if he’s going to get an answer! Your description of them rocking the girls to sleep made me smile too. Congratulations again, what a beautiful family you have xx

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