When Kirsty was small she had an imaginary twin called Katie. Katie came to school with Kirsty every day and they played together in the playground. She has always felt linked to twins in some way and when she imagined her future as a little girl, saw herself as a mother to twins – although the twins in her imagination were often a boy and a girl. When I was reeling at the image of two tiny, flickering heartbeats on the ultrasound screen, Kirsty wasn’t surprised at all. She just thought ‘Of course’.
If I’m honest, it’s always seemed a little like it was meant to be. Oh, a twin pregnancy is more stressful and a twin birth is more fraught with the potential for complications and let’s not even dwell on the logistics of caring for two newborns. It’s exhausting. But it felt right.
I don’t know for sure that the twins love each other yet. For a long time they didn’t acknowledge each other. They never slept better for being laid down together and their first smiles were certainly not at each other. For a while Balthazar’s favourite game was to chase Lysander around the house, patting his head, and I’ve never heard howls quite like it. Often, one of them will be sporting a bite mark from the other. They’re in a nippy phase right now.
But I know this: most mornings, we wake to the sound of them peering at each other over the bars of their cots, playing and laughing. When I think of their future, it doesn’t feel like a lonely one. They will always have a brother to fight their corner, a sibling who remembers their childhood from the beginning. A playmate at school, somebody to walk home with.
We’ve loved having twins. The good, the bad. None of the tricky moments have ever been awful enough to make us regret the moment that we looked at the photo of our two embryos and thought, “It’s worth a chance.”
Twins are what we know. And we’re not bad at them. And let me tell you that the last year and a half has been a blast.
And that is just one of the reasons that we are mostly all so excited to share with you that…
We’ve only flipping well gone and done it again.
Twins-take-two, the summer twins, will be joining this family in July 16.
Four under two, we can’t wait to share this crazy ride with you.
This is my first entry for The Siblings Project, which I co-host every month with Lucy from Dear Beautiful, Katie from Mummy Daddy Me, Keri-Anne from Gingerlilly Tea, Carie from Space for the Butterflies and Annie from Fable & Folk. We’d love to have you link up below with your own monthly sibling update and also do check out the new instagram page.