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  • So You’re Going to be Big Brothers

    A letter to Balthazar and Lysander, from my partner Kirsty.

    Dear Zaza and Sasha,

    So, you’re going to be big brothers!

    Congratulations, my beautiful little ones! You are going to be big brothers. This means such a myriad of things for you, for us. They aren’t all going to be easy, but I promise that your childhood is going to be full to the brim of beautiful memories, regardless.

    Things are going to change. YOU are going to change so much in between now and the arrival of your siblings; the difference between 15 months and 20 months is vast. I can’t predict how you, at such a young age, are going to take to these new little people, but I watch you play sometimes, kissing the babies in books and cuddling your dolls and touching each other’s hair or patting each other’s backs when one is sad and I have this hopeful feeling that you are going to be GOOD at this, my darlings. You are such loving boys, full of affection (however brief these moments are in toddlerhood) and joy and I hope so much that you will enjoy your new siblings.

    Don’t get me wrong, there is going to be a LOT of fighting over the years. Sometimes, perhaps often, it’s going to be hard for you. I’ve never left you and you aren’t used to sharing me with anyone but each other. You aren’t used to there being four of you as my priority, but I promise you, little loves, I know that I will be giving the four of you very nearly everything I have, and that is more than okay by me. There will always be enough time for you, or at the very least, I wil never stop trying to make that the case. There will always be kisses and cuddles and reassurance when you need it. I promise to do my absolute best to always listen to you, or to remember to return to what you were saying as soon as I can. I promise to involve you. We are a team; we have always been a team and now that we are expanding, I promise that you won’t be pushed out. It will be all of us, we will all be in this together, as much as you want to be. I promise, I know what we are getting in to and this choice was never made lightly.

    I love you. You are already wonderful big brothers without meaning to be – after all, a year with you has shaped me and made me a mother. You have already given your tiny, unborn siblings that.

    Hold tight, sweet ones. 2016 is going to be an amazing year.

    With love from mummy xx

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    1. Deborah
      February 10, 2016 / 10:27 pm

      You are an amazing Mum to the boys Kirsty, and I’m absolutely certain that you will continue this with their siblings. Love is the very best gift to give your children. And they have that in Spadeloads from you and Amber

    2. Hannah Budding Smiles
      February 13, 2016 / 2:37 pm

      What a beautiful letter Kirsty. You, Amber and your boys seem like the most wonderful family and I’m beyond excited for you all as you extend your brood! Amber… Now where’s that gender reveal mrs?! I’m waiting very impatiently!xx

    3. LauraCYMFT
      February 14, 2016 / 1:57 pm

      Such a lovely letter! I think these siblings are going to be so loved by you all! x

    4. Bread
      February 14, 2016 / 8:12 pm

      I’m sure they will be amazing big brothers!

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