This is my last Siblings Project update as mummy to four under two. At the end of this month the boys will celebrate their second birthday and the girls will turn three months old. I am going to miss being able to introduce myself as a mother to four under two and watching people’s jaws drop.
Almost three months in, the boys have adjusted well to being big brothers to our little ladies. In fact, I think that they no longer remember a time when it was just them and us. The novelty of the girls’ presence has worn off and they are no longer desperate to be around them constantly, to be touching and kissing and holding them. Instead they co-exist peacefully with the occasional cuddle. Olympia and Embla find their older brothers fascinating. They like to be sat up to watch the boys play, and will smile and flirt with them as they go about their day. They are beginning to show an interest also in each other; they like to face each other for little ‘conversations’, and they will laugh and coo and wave their arms.
Mostly the boys are the very best of friends. They ask after each other often when one is elsewhere, and they have so many funny little games. But they’ve been struggling a little too. Almost-two is a hard age. It’s hard to keep them safe from each other even with constant supervision; when tempers are lost their default response at the moment is to hit and to bite. It’s something that we’re working on, and if you have any tips for encouraging impulse control in toddlers we’d love to hear. Our little boys are so good-hearted usually and it’s horrifying to think of one harming the other, and worse to be too late to prevent it half the time, but they – and we – will get there. Many parents have experience of this, I think, but it’s dreadful when it’s happening under your own roof. Toddlers are the worst.
This month I’m showing you how bathtime works in our house at the moment. I love these unscripted photography sessions where I just document our everyday rather than pose everybody somewhere beautiful, with perfect lighting (although those have their place too!). These are so real, and when I look back on these pictures in the future they will trigger so many memories. For all of its challenges, we are loving being mummies to our little foursome at the moment.
This is my monthly update for The Siblings Project, which I co-host with Lucy from Dear Beautiful, Katie from Mummy Daddy Me, Keri-Anne from Gingerlilly Tea and Carie from Space for the Butterflies. We’d love to have you link up below with your own monthly sibling update and also do check out the new instagram page.
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