It’s the fifteenth of the month again and that means that it’s time for our monthly Siblings Project update. This is one of my favourite monthly commitments as it serves as a reminder to myself to catch a few portraits of the twins together and to document how much they are growing and changing.
You might know that not only do we have one set of twins who are sixteen months old but we are expecting a second set of twins, little girls, who are due in July. We are over the moon that our family is expanding again and having had twins once previously, can hardly imagine a pregnancy that contains only one baby! Our second set of twins were very much planned in one respect, in that we knew that allowing two embryos to be transferred back in to my uterus during IVF would significantly increase the likelihood of a multiple pregnancy and having loved the experience of raising twins the first time around, it was a chance that we were more than happy to take! We can hardly wait to welcome our two new family additions this summer.
I was surprised to read on a twin facebook group recently some negativity toward people who didn’t have twins but have wistfully remarked to twin mothers that they ‘would love to have twins’. For one thing, it seemed like rather an innocuous comment, certainly one that I have made in the past (the phrase ‘be careful what you wish for’ springs to mind!). It seems that people who make this remark fail to appreciate the intensity of raising two children of the same age and in doing so, inadvertently cause offence. Personally we’re not entirely convinced that it’s any different from a childless person wishing that they had a baby of their own and it certainly doesn’t seem to merit the amount of indignation caused within this group, but perhaps we lack sensitivity..! Or perhaps we’re just mad.
People, if you tell us that you would love to have twins, we will tell you how absolutely, mind-blowingly fantastic our experience of raising these tiny people has been. We wouldn’t change it. We are looking forward to doing it again!
And yes, sometimes it’s bloody hard. But there is no certainty that you wouldn’t love the reality of twins just as much as the idea.
This month our twins have enjoyed pushing each other in boxes, in the single buggy and on the swings. They chase each other about the house, giggling wildly, and roll a ball between each other. They love to brush each other’s hair, feed each other food and can point out each other’s various body parts (which is quite amusing during a nappy change!). They are rather good at sharing, with the occasional snatch and high-pitched wail or bite, and the difference between their two personalities just serves to highlight their individuality.
It’s late on a Monday night as I write this and perhaps the knowledge that I won’t get to play with them again until Saturday morning is making me sentimental, but I wouldn’t change a thing.
This is my monthly update for The Siblings Project, which I co-host with Lucy from Dear Beautiful, Katie from Mummy Daddy Me, Keri-Anne from Gingerlilly Tea, Carie from Space for the Butterflies and Annie from Fable & Folk. We’d love to have you link up below with your own monthly sibling update and also do check out the new instagram page.