Yesterday we were sitting on the bus, Olympia tucked against my body and Embla playing a complicated game involving touching Kirsty’s face. Our sons were sat beside her, chattering nineteen to the dozen into the silence, their conversation not aimed at anybody so much as all-inclusive, about buses and trains and the cars whizzing past, and about cats and cake and the swings at the park. An older lady, sat all alone, caught my eye and smiled.
And in that moment I felt so grateful to be Amber Wilde, London-born in this day and age when it is so easy to love the person whom I love more than anything in the world, and to raise children together, acknowledged as our own. We took them to the park and shared strawberries in the sunlight, and nobody blinked when I told my children to go and find their mummy, and when they ran back to me, shouting proudly that Mummy, they had conquered the slide. I will write a blog post, or film a video talking about what it is like to be same-sex parents soon, but honestly, the good outweighs the difficult every time and sometimes I feel so lucky, so tremendously privileged to be raising my children here and by the love and acceptance that we are shown that it takes my breath away.
Eating her strawberries in Mini Rodini! Gasp. What was I thinking?!
On Thursday, a reminder popped up on Facebook that it had been three years since I started blogging. And then on Friday, my friends hauled me over the 1k point on YouTube – sharing me with their audiences, shouting out to me on Facebook, Twitter and Instagram. It was one of those occasions that seem a little unbelievable; gorgeous Charlotte Taylor, who is every bit as nice as she seems in her channel and her blog, noticed that I was fewer than a hundred subscribers away from a thousand and kindly mentioned me on her insta, and then kept on doing it and some other friends joined in too and before I knew it, my Channel Mum friends were congratulating me and I couldn’t stop smiling and laughing. It wasn’t so much the number but the tremendous amount of kindness; all of those people who cared so much about helping us.
People who value us, who see the importance in families like ours having an online presence. People who see our family as nothing out of the ordinary, and people who have never met a same-sex family ‘in real life’ before but who are interested in us and supportive of us, who want to know more.
The messages that I most value are from those young people who are not ‘out’ yet, but who read my posts about coming out or who have seen my video and who message me to say that my writing, or my YouTube, gives them hope. Hope. Can you imagine? I feel immensely privileged to be in a position where my words can influence anybody, can comfort a young person who needs it so badly. If you are reading this and you are afraid for your future, please, please don’t be. A family like ours can be the most wonderful thing, and society will embrace you and love you even if the people around you right now are unable.
So, we thought we’d host a little competition to say ‘Thank you’!
We’re hosting a competition to win a £30 Amazon gift card. The competition will run for two weeks, ending conveniently just after pay day, and we’ll draw the winner and contact them about their prize on the 4th September. Very best of luck!